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Depression is probably more common than you think. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), in 2020, 8.4 percent of American adults experienced at least one depressive episode. Despite how common it is, there are many reasons why some folks may not feel comfortable talking about it or struggle with hidden depression.
If you’re familiar with depression, you probably know that it can negatively affect the way someone thinks, feels and acts in their daily life. Some people may feel shame or guilt around their depression, and others may just not want people to know about it.
So, how can you recognize whether or not someone in your life is struggling with hidden depression? Are there certain things you should look out for or be aware of?
Read on.
Hidden depression, also referred to as invisible depression or smiling depression, is actually no different than regular depression — with the exception of one thing. People with hidden depression work hard to conceal their symptoms.
So, out in the world, someone with hidden depression doesn’t look like they have depression at all. But, behind closed doors, they exhibit the signs of symptoms of someone with depression.
There are a number of reasons people may hide their depression. Some people may not want to worry their loved ones. Others may prefer privacy. And research shows that some people feel guilt or shame surrounding their depression.
Hidden depression may also affect people who have depression but don’t know it. These people may have never been diagnosed or don’t even know that they’re at risk for depression.
Technically, anyone can be at risk for hidden depression. As mentioned, people hide their depression for a variety of reasons. This means that there are a variety of people who may be vulnerable to hidden depression.
Say, for example, you grew up in a family that didn’t talk about mental health issues or communicate about feelings. If you grow up and have depression, you may feel like you have to hide it.
There are also certain racial disparities that may put certain groups more at risk of experiencing hidden depression. For instance, when it comes to undiagnosed depression, people in the Black and Hispanic communities are more likely to experience it.
Women who are postpartum may also be at risk for hidden depression. Postpartum depression (PPD) affects approximately one in seven new parents.
Symptoms of PPD include feeling highs and lows, irritability, big mood swings, guilt and crying, among others. Sometimes, these symptoms pop up right after childbirth, but they can also appear up to a year after having a baby.
The stigma around PPD is still pretty large. After all, people think that having a new baby is the greatest moment of your life — and for many people, it’s exactly that.
But it can also induce depression. Some women fear being judged for being in emotional pain post-baby, so they slip into hidden depression.
Hidden depression can have a huge impact on your daily life. Being a depressed person can affect your social life, your sleep, your work and more.
Regardless of whether your clinical depression is out in the open or hidden, the signs are the same. Common symptoms of depression include:
Sadness, anxiety or hopelessness
Pessimism or guilt
Losing interest in your hobbies
Fatigue and low energy
Irritability or frustration
Shifts in your appetite
Weight gain or loss
Trouble concentrating
Issues falling asleep
Aches, pains or digestive problems
Thoughts of self-harm or suicide
A diagnosis comes when someone has felt these signs of depression on a daily or near-daily basis for a period of two weeks or longer.
What makes hidden depression tricky, however, is that your friend or loved one may be very good at doing just that — hiding it.
So, pay attention to them. If you pick up on any of the following, it may be worth checking in with them to make sure they’re feeling okay:
Sharp weight fluctuations
Changes in productivity
Sudden changes in personality
Lapses in personal hygiene
Sleeping habit changes
Change in social interactions
These are just a few things to look out for. Unfortunately, there are plenty of others that differ uniquely between each individual. A good rule of thumb is to keep an eye on them — if anything seems off, it’s never a bad idea to check in.
If you’re hiding your depression, it means you likely aren’t getting it treated — and that can have a detrimental effect on your life.
A study from 2017 found that the longer that depression goes undiagnosed or untreated, the worse symptoms get — and those symptoms can become harder to treat.
Not only that, untreated depression can be bad for your physical health. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, untreated depression can lead to illnesses like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, stroke, osteoporosis and more.
Finally, there are concerns that those with hidden depression are more at risk for self-harm or suicide because they do not get the help needed to address their mental illness.
As you can see, the risks of hidden depression are serious. Because of this, it’s important to seek professional help so that you can start treating your depression and start living a healthier, happier life.
Here’s some good news: If you get treatment for hidden depression, your life can greatly improve. And treatment really works. Around 80 to 90 percent of people with depression respond well to treatment at some point.
So, what types of treatment are there? Therapy and medication tend to be the go-tos, along with lifestyle changes.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is believed to be the preeminent treatment for depression, and there’s plenty of research out there to support its efficacy.
With CBT, you will work with a mental health provider to find patterns of behavior that feed or worsen your depression. Then, you’ll come up with ways to make beneficial changes.
Medication is another option. Antidepressant medications like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are typically considered first-line treatments for depression. They can be used on their own or in conjunction with therapy.
Antidepressants take between four to eight weeks before you may notice an improvement in your depressive symptoms, so it’s important to keep an honest line of communication with your provider, not stop taking them suddenly and also be patient while waiting to feel results.
And finally, there are several lifestyle changes you can make to help treat the symptoms of depression. Getting proper rest, getting at least 150 minutes of physical exercise every week and also eating a balanced diet have all been shown to impact the way we feel — inside and out.
Though hidden depression is not a medical term or condition, it is a very real thing for many people. It’s essentially when someone has depression but they hide it from others — or even from themselves.
Whether you’re hiding your depression because you’re ashamed of it or because you just don’t know what to do about it, it can have a huge effect on your life.
The symptoms of depression (even the hidden kind) include irritability, sadness, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances and more.
Thankfully, depression can be treated with medication, therapy, lifestyle changes or a combination of the three.
If you’d like to speak with a mental health professional about hidden depression, Hers offers online consultations that make it easy.
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