Have you ever heard of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT)? If not, chances are you’re not alone.
EFT is a type of psychotherapy that focuses on adult relationships and attachment.
This short-term form of therapy uses the principles of attachment theory and neuroscience, and looks at existing patterns within a relationship to help develop trust and create a more secure bond.
The goal of EFT is to move relationships in a healthy, positive direction.
While there isn’t much research available on EFT as it’s still a developing practice, therapists who support this approach often use it in couples therapy.
They believe that EFT can help couples reconnect, heal from betrayals and resolve conflicts.
According to mental health professionals who use the theories of EFT to help their patients, it can be used in all stages of relationships, from premarital counseling to reviving closeness after years of distance.
Therapists may also use EFT to help couples who are having trouble coping with an illness -- whether it’s their own, or that of a child.
Additionally, EFT has shown promise in treating social anxiety disorder.
Therapists who undergo EFT training learn to understand the experience of each patient and approach them in a non-blaming way.
These techniques help create an atmosphere where it’s okay for patients to feel open, vulnerable and make their needs known.
Since EFT often focuses on relationships, there is a high likelihood that during therapy sessions, the mental health professional will observe the interactions between patients.
The therapist will then help reshape the conversation and encourage the patient/s to discover feelings and emotions that they may not have realized they had.
When compared to other types of therapy, EFT is considered a “brief” model.
EFT therapists are trained to guide patients and help them rebuild relationships in a relatively short period of time. At least, that’s the goal. Unfortunately, there isn’t much research to support this, yet.
Instead of just helping people change their behavior and improve their communication skills, EFT focuses on the bonds and connections people make when they first meet.
According to the theories of EFT, when those bonds feel threatened, the brain reacts as if it’s in danger, triggering a fight, flight or freeze reaction.
In relationships, the emotional responses manifest as arguments, distancing and stonewalling.
EFT works with the belief that when the danger response is triggered repeatedly, people begin to react strongly to small things. Over time, this creates a negative cycle of fighting and disengaging.
Therapists that use EFT to help their patients aim to teach them that it’s this cycle that is actually the enemy — which, in turn, may help slow down reactions, decrease defensiveness and allow patients to truly listen to their partners.
The goal for those practicing EFT is to be able to exit the arguing, have heartfelt conversations that help resolve concerns and ultimately create a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.
While there is a lot of widely available research on EFT, therapists trained in it say they have seen positive results when working with distressed couples who need help reconnecting.
And although EFT is a relatively lesser-used approach than some other more popular techniques, it has also been an effective method for helping individuals suffering from depression.
If you’re having a hard time building meaningful relationships, or if you have issues trusting or connecting with friends, partners and loved ones, EFT may be right for you.