What Is The Best Vibrator?

    If you’re looking for the best vibrator, we may be able to help you find it. 

    The internet is awash with reviews, lists, and rankings of the best vibrators on the market, and they all seem to say different things. And the reason for that may be more obvious than you think.

    While a new toy might come out every few months and generate considerable buzz, the reality is that no one device can provide the perfect orgasm for everyone. 

    If you’re discouraged by this, there’s good news attached: it means the right vibrator for you is out there—it may just be different than what you’ve read about, or heard about. 

    Finding the best vibrator for you is no easy task, and there’s likely to be trial and error to find out what you do and don’t like. 

    That’s why we’ve assembled some guidelines to help you become a better educated consumer—so that you’ll be able to find yourself something that really, really passed the vibe check. 

    The Best Vibrator Is the One You Like

    Like partners, cars, and music, vibrator preferences are subjective, and as such there’s no accounting for taste. 

    It’s such a difficult task that in 2018 an article published in the journal of the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy aimed to codify some basic recommendations for counseling patients on choosing and safely using a vibrator.

    They came to the conclusion that choosing the right vibrator is not a “one size fits all” decision, but rather a series of decisions on specific criteria different to each user. According to the article, “Vibrators differ based on physical characteristics (size, shape, material) and functional characteristics (speed, type and intensity of vibration). These, in conjunction with treatment needs and patient preferences, should be reviewed when counseling a patient on choosing a vibrator.”

    Size in particular can be a concern for many women, and a source of some self-consciousness. The good news is that the market is full of vibrators that run the gamut of size, shape and overall function.

    In other words, the perfect vibrator doesn’t exist; the perfect vibrator for you, however, is out there. 

    The Styles of Vibrators

    Part of the reason recommending a vibrator is no easy task is that there are so many formats for delivering vibration wherever you might want it. Vibrators are just one type of sex toy, but they can also be considered a category of sex toys. Dildos, butt plugs and beads can all be made to vibrate.

    There are several “styles” of vibrator on the market today, and different experts will define them differently, but they often include 

    1. bullet or clitoral vibrators, which focus the vibrations to your external genitalia
    2. internal or g-spot vibrators, which focus vibration on your internal genitalia.
    3. remote-controlled or wearable vibrators, which may be internal or external, but have their controls located separate from the vibrating device.
    4. combos or rabbits, which provide vibration to the g-spot and clitoris. 
    5. Suckers, which in addition to vibration may form a vacuum seal around your clitoris for added stimulation.

    Beyond that, there are really no rules for how a vibrator might be designed. Some vibrators will look like penises, some won’t. Some of those will be realistic, some won’t. 

    And the materials to use them can vary as widely as the shapes. According to the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy, “vibrators are made from many different materials including silicone, hard plastic, glass, stainless steel, wood, rubber, vinyl/cyberskin, jelly rubber and other varied thermoplastic elastomers not listed.”

    Finally, there’s the question of how many people are using the vibrator in question. While discussion of the best vibrator for you can be narrowed to preferences, it might also need to take into account whether you’re using this with a partner, and whether you want that partner to share in the vibrational enjoyment. 

    In another era, using a vibrator while in a relationship may have had stigma attached to it. But these days it’s all too common and normal, accounting for more than half of the more than 2000 women surveyed in 2009 — and that stat is only going up.

    A follow up study concluded that using a vibrator with a partner was generally good for the happiness and enjoyment for women. “Most vibrator users indicated comfort using them with a partner and vibrator use was related to positive sexual function as measured by the Female Sexual Function Index (FSFI). In addition, partner knowledge and perceived liking of vibrator use was a significant predictor of sexual satisfaction for heterosexual women.”

    What to Look For in a Good Vibrator

    Regardless of your preferences, there are some basic—universal—standards recommended for a good vibrator: one that is safe, well-designed, and comfortable. 

    The article from the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy emphasized an established set of criteria for vibrator choice that included safety, comfort, and versatility concerns. The criteria they shared included:

    1. Shape that allows for penetration, if desired.
    2. Size that is of a length and circumference likely to be safe, comfortable, and pleasurable for the individual/couple.
    3. Variable vibration speeds and settings, particularly for new vibrator users who may benefit from exploring. 
    4. Nonporous material (silicone, hard plastic, glass).
    5. Must be waterproof if planning to use in the shower or bath.
    6. Easy to clean (eg, few crevices).
    7. Vibrators for internal use should be built so that the battery compartment remains outside of the orifice and/or is tightly secured, if inside an orifice.

    Following these basic rules won’t necessarily lead you to the right toy for you any faster, but it will keep you from having any issues, complications, injuries, or other negative experiences that might run the risk of turning you off from toys in general.

    Finding Your Best Vibrator

    Women and their ways of enjoying sexual stimulation—with or without a partner—are many and varied, and it doesn’t matter if the greatest engineers in the world get together with an unlimited budget; every woman is going to enjoy and need something slightly different.

    The best advice we can leave you with is to be adventurous. Try things that excite you—follow those little jolts of excitement. Experimentation is good for you, as is a generally positive approach to finding a good sex toy. 

    That article we keep mentioning? It shared one additional kernel of wisdom: that if you feel good about using toys, you’ll have more success finding a toy that feels good. “Women who feel positive about vibrator use may in turn experience greater benefit from vibrator use. Conversely, those who feel negatively about vibrator use may not be good candidates for vibrator treatment.”

    There’s no reason to internalize stigma when seeking out some well-deserved pleasure (and you do deserve it). We can’t tell you what’s going to feel the best for you, we can only tell you that finding it is a success you deserve.

    This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The information contained herein is not a substitute for and should never be relied upon for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits of any treatment.